Buying online store problems?

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Tried to buy new jeans at online store. Purchase went well happy with item. Then next day they cancelled my order. After emails and phone call I convinced them the purchase was legit.
Problem the store had was my sister has account at the store. While using my credit card the store believed she had purchased the jeans for some reason. Asked them why? They found it odd that the jeans are female and my name was ordering the purchase.
Then the funny conversation happened as the woman over the phone said are these jeans for you? I paused, hesitated and said no? I pussed out I know. The way the woman asked me felt she would puke in her mouth if I said yes there for me. Then she said, your buying them for your sister, correct? Again I said, yah.. Think she didn't believe me but I explained if I can have the order reinstated. Then she took a moment and did so. After the conversation I felt her tone of her voice didn't believe I was buying those jeans for my sister.
Felt if I had said, infacticly the woman jeans are for me she would give more of a bad tone of yuk towards me. Even though she probably thought it as she posed the question to me.
Even though the online store used it security measures of buyer buying same gender clothes there are no problems or questions. While I was buying female jeans it was a red flag for possible fraud. So whoever says buying online easy for men buying woman jeans. Never had trouble buying female jeans online before just this particular online store that I won't reveal.

Bottom line if you have a sister make sure she doesn't shop or have account in some online shops. This will confuse the shop if you decide to order jeans for yourself. Everytime I decide to purchase jeans at the online store they will phone to confirm i'm buying with my free will or knowledge. It's pain in the ass. Moral of the story don't have female siblings.

[K/S/K]

Can't figure this one out ?

Why would any merchant give a rxx'x axx about who the jeans are for; you; your sister or
anyone else for that matter.
The jean seller is in the business to sell jeans not kill sales based on gender discrimination.

Did your sister have some bad customer relations with this firm and is 'Red Flagged' for all
future orders ?

Was your sister contacted about this purchase and denied ordering the jeans and simply
cancelled it ?

Also one fine point does your sister have her size on file at this firm and by not ordering her
size the seller was questioning you in a round about way ?

Does this seller have some arcane return merchandise rules that have been violated in the past ?

OK - the jeans were for you but you whimped out - are you and your sister the same size ?
Maybe the seller thought it odd that your sister had a weight size change.

Maybe it was the way you approached the sale - afterall it is a bit odd that you are buying
jeans for your sister instead of something else more suitable.

Well you escaped from this one !

When I buy clothing be it a kilt skirt or skort (hence my moniker - k/s/s) I flat out state that it
is for ME !
That being stated I find that the merchant/seller is a great deal more helpful in getting the
details as to size and dimensions to my frame rather than chance having to go thru a return
and exchange situation.

It is natural the first few times that you buy women's wear for yourself to be a bit self conscious.
You read about it all the time in forums and in some cases it is amusing yet it does pose
problems for serious cross gender clothing folks. There is nothing wrong with wearing clothes.
Hell the damn law states that you have to wear clothes but it does not state what gender
they have to be for !

Unless you are really happy with the merchandise and service (?) I would suggest you seek
another more friendly seller that does not process your order via a "Spanish Inquistion" !

k/s/s

[K/S/K]

Forgot to ask you who the online seller was - unless of course you want to opt out.

k/s/s

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Apr 2, 2012 22:05:58 GMT -5 K/S/K said:

Can't figure this one out ?

Why would any merchant give a rxx'x axx about who the jeans are for; you; your sister or
anyone else for that matter.
The jean seller is in the business to sell jeans not kill sales based on gender discrimination.

Did your sister have some bad customer relations with this firm and is 'Red Flagged' for all
future orders ?

Was your sister contacted about this purchase and denied ordering the jeans and simply
cancelled it ?

Also one fine point does your sister have her size on file at this firm and by not ordering her
size the seller was questioning you in a round about way ?

Does this seller have some arcane return merchandise rules that have been violated in the past ?

OK - the jeans were for you but you whimped out - are you and your sister the same size ?
Maybe the seller thought it odd that your sister had a weight size change.

Maybe it was the way you approached the sale - afterall it is a bit odd that you are buying
jeans for your sister instead of something else more suitable.

Well you escaped from this one !

When I buy clothing be it a kilt skirt or skort (hence my moniker - k/s/s) I flat out state that it
is for ME !
That being stated I find that the merchant/seller is a great deal more helpful in getting the
details as to size and dimensions to my frame rather than chance having to go thru a return
and exchange situation.

It is natural the first few times that you buy women's wear for yourself to be a bit self conscious.
You read about it all the time in forums and in some cases it is amusing yet it does pose
problems for serious cross gender clothing folks. There is nothing wrong with wearing clothes.
Hell the damn law states that you have to wear clothes but it does not state what gender
they have to be for !

Unless you are really happy with the merchandise and service (?) I would suggest you seek
another more friendly seller that does not process your order via a "Spanish Inquistion" !

k/s/s

First off I had the same response why would they bring up asking about my sister. They told me her account was red flagged and had issues using other peoples credit cards.

So I suppose she used my address and home phone number. So now I just was caught off guard while they asked me further questions.
They began with assumption that the jeans were for my sister because there woman fashions. So I didn't want to confuse or shock the sales woman then she would just hang up the phone saying the item is cancelled and be done with me. She may had found it weird if I told her the jeans are for me. She even told me the size I was purchasing, while my sister probably purchased in the past smaller size, doubt the woman cared to bring it up knowing the truth and got frustrated about the conversation. With her tone asking me that the jeans are woman's I caved to her assumption that the jeans I purchased are for my sister. In her mind why else would a man by women jeans?
By going along with her assumptions I agreed who they were for sadly.

If I told sales lady there for me I suppose they would write some note on there data information about me such as cross- dresser, freak or gay so to alert any further transaction to go through without problems.
Maybe by just lying it helps me sleep well at night knowing there isn't a record of my purchases being sold to companies selling me ads for maxi pads or lipstick etc.. Knowing how privacy has been eliminated online probably will get junk ad mail for woman panties with my name on it, what does the mailman think delivering to my box? Won't be surprised to have cross- dresser magazine or gay mags sending me complimentary issue in the mail. Then I will think why send it to me only not to my neighbor? Trying to figure out who's making a joke about me sending subtle messages like this. This could only be that some companies make assumption about me wrong as they maybe but want my $$.

Maybe it will be easier to pay cash at a brick mortar store with only the cashier chuckling at me. Better then having a history in my buying habits. To late for that I suppose.

As far about the online store you probably browsed looking for denim there, it's about 8 stores online that sell designer jeans. I rather keep the name to myself before ads start showing up on this sight when I log in or wherever else. Geez I hate google and yahoo. Bing for spying and selling my info.

Funny thing with this particular transaction is woman have no problem buying menswear on there credit card. While its unusual for men to shop for women they are treated as unscrupulous up to no good. What a double standard society and companies bring towards a world of being blind of race, color,religion, or gender. I suppose I'm nieve to believe in that. Felt like I was doing something dirty or taboo buying jeans for myself even though there woman's wear. Does that make me bad guy or just a freak?

By the way I have bought jeans other online store and didnt have problems. Sometimes it's trying to buy the only style, brand and wash that can be found out there with a great price. So I may need to shop where ever or whom ever I can find what I was looking for or just pay full retail, ouch... So I get gestapoed once in awhile finding my papers on order and let me buy what I want with some anxiety and agravation. Sometimes better then going to store finding no new jeans in stock or not my size every week or so, that gets tiresome and embarrassing and time consuming. Click of browser in bookmark online stores are faster way to shop. At what price? Not meaning $$$ but other stuff mentioned earlier....

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Sorry to hear you've had problems. I've bought dozens of pairs of jeans both in the stores and online, with help and without and never once had any issues, in fact, just the opposite. I've found sales staff to be extremely helpful, even bringing to me jeans I wouldn't have even bothered to try or suggesting a different fit/size. Stores included Nordstrom, Saks Fifth, Neiman Marcus, 7FAM store, Joe Jean's both online and BAM, and Piperlime online. Shop these stores and I'm sure there won't be any issues and if there are they take kindly to customer complaints. They make money through customer service and repeat business.

[Admin]

I suppose having two accounts with the same billing address would raise a red flag. Especially if the store has had a history of problems with fraud. Although I was a bit unnecessary of them ask whom he purchase was for, rather than just validation that it was legit. I would think this was a fluke and generally one isn't questioned about their purchase based on a gender not matching the billing address name.